In my work as a therapist, I noticed themes emerging in clients of all ages that reminded me of things I’d observed as a classroom teacher and in the corporate world. I learned to recognize phrases and patterns that can damage a child’s self-esteem and follow them into adulthood.
I thought my insights could be helpful to anyone raising children, working with children, or had been a child themselves– in other words, everyone. I began to write a book focusing on the importance of our words and how to speak relationally to children, even if it’s the child within yourself.
Rather than focusing on all the things that people should not say to their kids, I wanted to provide suggestions on what adults could say instead.
Words leave a lasting impact on people, and painful memories or insecurities can linger for years to come. This book is an easy to follow guide that lays out what toxic terms to avoid, what makes them so hurtful and alternative ways to describe how you’re feeling.
My book, “Toxic Terms: 10 Things Never to Say to Kids…But What You Can Say Instead”, is available here.